lifesukz / Oct 24 2009 17.54

yeah i'm in the exact same situation, but i don't hurt myself, i just don't see how it can help, so you really should try to stop :)

 

But how old are you? i am 14 in this situation, what about you?

dannyS / Oct 24 2009 20.52

im actually 14 to. and i know i should stop hurting my self but i cant

little-em / Nov 11 2009 2.17

hey chicken

first of all, I think you are really brave to have told your friends before your parents. But, if you are self harming then they need to know and you need to talk to someone about how you're feeling.

Talk to your mum and/or your dad when the house is calm and there is no tension. Just lay it out for them, and be prepared for them to tell you that "it's just a phase" etc...

But that is the worst of it. Your family know, so you're not lying to them anymore, and the people you trust know. Then, it is completely up to you whether or not you "come out" to other people.

But the main thing that you need to do is talk to someone (anyone) about how you are feeling, and get some help to stop self harming.

Good luck xx

loudness / Nov 11 2009 5.31

Well.. A few of my friends found out that I was gay in a very awkward way.. you don't wanna know.. but they are still good friends and it's completely normal between us + the good thing is that I can just be blatently gay in front of them :P

So really, you telling them must be OK. :) It's best to tell your family and your closest friends first and if they're actually real friends to you, it shouldn't affect the friendship in anyway :)

But.. self-harm.. :S The only advice I can give is that it isn't going to improve the situation at all and if you're doing it because you feel lonely then find someone, on here, or possibly a close friend, to trust and confide your secrets to :)

It is a huge weight off your shoulders if you tell just one person. :)

Be yourself, don't care what other people think and try to stop the self-harm. Good Luck!!

xxx! *hugs*

 

Sazzieee / Nov 21 2009 16.50

Hmm..
could you spark up a conversation about a gay celebrity who has come out and see how your family reacts to them? I guess then you'll have an idea of how they might react to your situation.
If they react badly then you could try explaining to them that love is love, they can't change you, it's your choice, and that if they really love you then they're going to have to support you through this.

Good luck! I hope things work out.

pooky / Dec 06 2009 0.35

im 13 and i the same situation. im not sure really what to do. i mean self harmingis upsetting and you should speak to a counsellor on here. remember that there are many other peopel in the world who are like us, it can just take time to realize it. when you are older life will be come much easier. ou will have more freedom from family life and will have oppurtunities to meet other people who are like us. its completely normal thing.