gay-girl / Dec 27 2009 21.26

i wouldnt tell any1 just yet just on till your sure, im gay and b4 i came out i made sure it was not just something i was going through

so if i was you i would do the same

DoodleGirl64 / Dec 28 2009 19.51

Thanks for your reply. I just wanted to ask (if you don't mind), how did you make sure that you were actually gay before telling anyone? I don't know how to be certain of what I am.

nicky15 / Dec 28 2009 23.08

hey, if your not sure but desperate to tell someone, say that you bi, that way it doest matter which way you go but people wont be shocked if they find out youve got a boy/girlfriend :D hope this helps a bit.

hurrahforGAH / Dec 29 2009 10.15

I've never quite been sure what I am, so I eventually settled on bi. A good way to become sure is to compare how you feel with girls with how you feel with boys. There is no real way to be sure, I'm afraid. As for coming out, I know 2 ways that generally work.

You can either write a letter to your closest male friend and keep it between you;

Or do what I'm doing: I started dropping hints to my female friend [who we'll call N] and N sent a message to 3 other friends of mine via a social networking site. I plan to slowly tell some friends and let it leak to other people in the year and a rumor will spread, and then I will come out properly (but also if I change my mind I can deny it and say it's just a rumor!)

It's really a question of which will work best for you. Hope I've helped!