cookebabes3 / Dec 06 2009 15.52

 

hey; i think your so brave!
my friend, is 13 & he is gay, & im 13 myself;
- he went out with a lad, & our head of year, told his parents by phone& they are pure christains,

sometimes when you come out;
(although i am not lesbian myself)
i have helped alot of people, to come out;
anyways; alot of the time, parents think you a different person because your gay, for example;
if you like football,
then your mum/dad/career might think because your gay, you wont like football anymore;
which wont be true;

also your 12, which means ur in year7' or 8;
this is quite young to know your sexuality, if you apsoultly 100% know you are gay, then maybe you should wait untill your a teenager to tell anyone;
- but if you think its something you need to tell now, then just remember you might get alot of people 'talking' at school& it wont be easy.
however; your real friends will not judge you on ur sexuality [:

im sorry its so long!
but i hope it helps x

kizza66 / Dec 09 2009 22.57

I was the same, i'm 14 and gay, i knew when i was like, 11? so i know that you can be sure of this at a very early age, i was scared to death of telling ANYONE, but i did :), it was when i was 14 though, and i was trying to since i was 12, so be prepared for this to take a while, its a hard thing to do.

Luckily for me,.2 of my girl friends came out as bi, (one later figured out she was full blown lesbian) so i felt fine to tell them (even though it was still hard like that!). Since then i have told a few people that are straight, and they are all fine with it!

My point is, they will accept you, i suggest not telling your parents first, pick a friend to tell, and maybe even wait a bit as they may not understand when you are 12 years old.  But you have to be who you are, you cant hide it.

A good method of coming out is not denying it! When your friend says 'oh shes fit' just dont say anything to agree. If anyone says 'HAHA yeah but hes gay' dont deny it! Maybe start talking about guys, that way people can come to terms with it slowly, good luck and sorry it was so long

Bing / Dec 10 2009 19.51

Thanks!

i dont watch football and im in year 8 but im completely 100% sure but thanks

cookebabes3 / Dec 11 2009 21.04

no problems! x

hurrahforGAH / Dec 23 2009 12.18

I agree about the being sure bit. I have had a rollercoaster ride of thinking I was straight, then gay, then straight, and now bisexual. I admire you for being prepared to admit this at the age of 12 [even if only to people you've never met!] But I would wait until you do things like homosexuality in PSHE before coming out because people will be starting to understand it more. But if you're really sure I would write a letter to your closest female friend, cause they probably won't be bothered by it but still care. As for your family, I would wait until you're 15 or so, I know that you're probably thinking 'How on earth does he expect me to wait that long' but they're probably more likely to take you seriously then. Good luck and Merry Christmas!

chriss25 / Dec 28 2009 1.52

Im 14.. And i dont know how to tell anyone.. i've got NO friends and my family doesnt get me.. i cant handle it.. sometimes i just wanna die...

xxxkatiexxx / Jan 08 2010 0.37

i'm 13 nearly 14 and i think i'm a lesbian and i dont want to tell anyone so we are in the same boat but my mates say really mean jokes about gay people and i always have a go at them for doing so. but i'm not going to tell anyone until i'm 14

but i think you are really brave.

nick512 / Jan 08 2010 19.51

Hi everyone, yu are all struggling and stuck. Just like i was, im a 17 yr old guy and im either bisexual or st8 and having a hard time working it out. but now i have i feel GR8! None of you here have to come out as Bi or lesbian not til u feel comfortable with it!. I only have a few mates who knew (well 1 knew b4 i did lol) but he has been gr8 and helped me miles.

I would wait a few years and then come out if u want, because i could be a phase or hormones! i was like more into lads but not im settled down and about 80% st8 and 20% into lads. and im 17... hope this helps anyone