User70786072 / Nov 26 2009 10.14

You said in your message that she cheated on you. You saw her make out with some creep. You also said that she might do herself some physical harm.

Let me get one thing to you straight. SHE'S CHEATING. Full stop, no rewinding. She cheated on you, sober or not sober. Yeah, so you dated her for 7 or 8 months but still, a good girlfriend sticks with one guy and DOES NOT CHEAT. So what if she's a hot one? So what if she's your first, or second, or even last. She's a bad one. A real faliure. She was not loyal and was probably threatening to cut herself (I bet she won't have the guts) to try and get you back. DON'T YOU SEE WHAT'S HAPPENING? SHE'S PROTECTING HER IMAGE. She wants to be little miss innocent. Too bad, it isn't going to work.

But of course, you have to check where you heard the stories from. Was it someone who witnessed? Keep tracking the person down to the person who was actually there. These could be frauds.

You can still be friends with her, I'm not saying you can't. But I'll say that you shouldn't. Or maybe it's because I wouldn't.

Stop worrying and get a grip. Your supposed to be a guy for crap's sake.

Cheers.

ragdoll / Nov 30 2009 21.44

she sounds like shes doing wat my friends used to do, try nd use self harm to manipulate ppl. idk why they do it but they do nd i no how it feels to be under pressure to either look after your own feelings or look after theirs. shes picking on you because she knows u'll cave in to her but it's a vicious circle cuz there's always going to be another problem nd she'll come crying to you again nd again.

sounds to me like you're a nice guy nd deserve better.