Losing Him And Trying To Hold On

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    fantasyworld / Jan 07 2010 22.06

    Ok, so I'm really in love with my Nextdoor neighbour, and I've loved him since I was 6 years old, and it's almost been seven years cuz I'm almost 13.
    I never told him for ages, and then I started getting really down a couple of months ago because I loved him so much and was so afraid of losing him.
    Then one of my best friends told him for me, and he went through a patch of not knowing whether to ask me out or not. That was so hard for me because I could have lost him and we wouldn't have even been friends after.
    Finally though, on the 19th of December, he asked me out after school, and I got to hug him and everything. It was the best day of my life, and I wasn't depressed for the first time in months. I felt like I used to. I felt free.
    It was amazing at first. he told me he loved me all the time and he said sweet things and acted like the boyfriend I'd always dreamed about- the one that would look after me, be there for me.
    Then the friend that told him I loved him began to get REALLY close to hijm, talking to him over Xbox LIVE for aver an hour everyday, and getting to know his friends, learning stuff about him I never knew. At first I thought this was just because she went out with his older brother, but then she dumped him and got even closer to my boyfriend.
    Everyday my feelings that they love each other got stronger and stronger, and I began to worry about it more and more.
    And now, it's so bad, she told me he doesn't know whether he wants to break up with me or not and just be friends. I know I can't hadle that at all, and that it'll completely ruin me.
    My friend says she's trying her best to keep us together, but I just can't quite believe it.
    I can't understand why he would think about breaking up with me, we've barely been going out 2 weeks.
    My friend honestly feels to me like SHE'S the girlfriend and not me.
    What do I do? Is there something I can do to tell him how much I love him more than I already have done?

    Please please help me, it's tearing me up on the inside, and I know I won't be able to cope if he breaks up with me,
    thanks,

    Fantasyworld
    xxx

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    IfOnlyTheyKnew / Jan 05 2010 12.46

    sweetie x

    when i first strtd going out with my boyfriend i felt the same way, one of his best friends was a girl and he spet alot more time with this girl then he did with me, she knew lots about him dat i ddnt and dey used to hug alot infront of me. i dnt actually remember doing anything to make him closer to me, me just sort of got that way, but r u sure this is no more than theyr friendship, maybe ur boyfriend thinks that if he tells u the things that he tells ur frend then u miite not like him anymore?

    talk to ur frend and tell her that ur feeling a bit uncomfortable at how much time shes spending with him, stay calm coz there mite b a reasonable explanation for how much time they spend together. if she says to u "o he mite dump u he mite not"  tell her to mind her own buisness coz if shes ur frend she shud b there to soften he blow if he did dump u, not rub the possibility of it happening in ur face coz thats not wat a frend is for. keep positive sweetie coz it mite work out fine, me n my boyfrend strtd off shakey n now weve been to gether for over 7mnths

    xXx

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    fantasyworld / Jan 07 2010 22.06

    heya, and thankyou so much for replying. Knowing that I'm not the only one in my position has helped me, and I spoke to my friend, and it helped a lot =) My boyfriend decided to keep going out with me, and we're a lot closer now.
    Thanks for your advice,

    Fantasyworld
    xxx

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