JLSlover / Jan 03 2010 21.35

i dont think yoo should leave jack because if it has been 7 months there must b something yoo like about him and you shouldnt throw it all away for a guy that it might not work out with x

hope that helped xx

hurrahforGAH / Jan 03 2010 23.10

OK. This isn't really my field but you seem desperate so I'll give it my best shot.

Your friend [who I'll call Matt] cannot ruin your relationship. The tone of your post suggests that Jack is a nice, compassionate lad and you seem quite lucky. However I would say that a man-to-man chat is the solution. I would tell Jack about Matt and your rejection and they can talk it over. I am a bisexual boy and I know that would be good enough. If Jack can explain how lucky he feels to be with you it might just soften the blow for Matt.

As for what you're feeling about Jack, my only advice is stick with it. There must have been something you saw in him that made you go out with him in the first place and I would hold on to him until you honestly believe that it's dead. It's perfectly normal not to know what's so special about him. All that's important is that you honestly believe he is.

I hope this will help. Feel free to reply

onlymeagain / Jan 04 2010 1.12

Heyy, boyfriends are not important. you dont have to have a boyfriend to be happy. if you are single and independant then boys will respect you for that, they wont think you are a bicth for saying no to all them boys, they will think you are decent for letting them know, if you were a bicth you would be seeing all the boys at the same time. there are more important things than boys. in my opinion i think you should just tell them te truth, then hopefully no one will be hurt :)

Hope i helped xxx

IfOnlyTheyKnew / Jan 04 2010 19.11

Thank u that helped me a lot, it makes sense what u described so thnx. il stay with him :)  the man to man chat mite nt work out coz 'Matt' gets peed off a tad to easy and hel prob just thnk were tryna rub r happiness in his face coz thats the type of guy 'Matt' is. trust me im not like that, i wouldnt hurt his feelings on purpose unless he seeeriusly hurt mine first and ddnt apologise, but even if we go out of of our way to b nice to him evrything always works out to make me look like the bad guy :( 

IfOnlyTheyKnew / Jan 04 2010 19.12

thnx for ur suggestions guys, they r appreciated

fantasyworld / Jan 04 2010 21.35

I'm so happy you decided to stay with your boyfriend. Don't let anyone take you away from him. If you've been with him all this time, then you must have seen something in him.
You're so lucky yo have him, and I hope you're always happy.
It'd be nice to know someone has a happy love life...

 xxx

henny / Jan 04 2010 23.31

 Jut follow your heart x

IfOnlyTheyKnew / Jan 06 2010 17.44

the guy i had the fight with is being reely horrible atm, he keeps tellin ppl dat im a bich n wen i passed him thhe other day he gave me a reely dodgey look and walked reely fast around me lke i had sm incureable contageus disease.

is it my fault? iv tryed to b nice to him but he wudnt let me b happy even wen i was tryna b nice n wen i did finally loose my patience hes making it look like im some evil bich :( wat shud i do?

hurrahforGAH / Jan 08 2010 14.15

You could say "You'll never get me to like you if you behave like that"

Or, on a more serious note, hurrahforGAH is right, but your last post implies you want to be rid of him. Just set him straight. Tell him that he lost and Jack won. Tell him that you can't help who you're in love with and that it's nothing personal [well, it is in a way, but it's not that you don't like him]. One day he'll understand that you're in love with Jack and this other person is wrong to try to split up what is obviously true love.

Hope this helps.

IfOnlyTheyKnew / Jan 09 2010 15.21

thank u :)