unluckyem / Jan 12 2010 22.57

i'm the same with both my parents partners. It hurts alot, and yea, i feel like they are taking my parents away from me. I try to be nice to them for my parents sake, which is very hard.

Buh i know that my dad and mum both want me to get on with their partners, and they feel hurt when i dnt. Theres not much u can do really, u have to live with it, just think at the end of the day, as long as ur mum is happy then thats a good thing.

Atleast if ur mum has someone then they are more than likely gna be living with her when u leave home, that way she'll be happy and wont be on her own, plus u wnt be living there no more, so u wnt have to put up with him.

Thats the way i have had to look at it, as much as i dnt like it, buh i think of their happiness and how i will be leaving home in a year or two, so i wnt be around to put up with them for much longer,

hope this helps :) x

Lexiedrops / Jan 13 2010 18.08

My parents seperated when I was 6 (I'm now 16).

I'm not quite sure how I first took my mum dating. My mum's been through a few men since my dad. Trust me, when you see your mum upset and lonely, you long for the day she finds someone who makes her happy. She recently became single but I think this time she's happy. You just have to imagine the thought of living all by yourself and let her be happy.

Maybe you can try and spend some quality time with him and get to know him better and maybe you'll realise that he doesn't hate you and he's not upset with having you around. It's a change and that may be why it's uncomfortable.

You could talk to your mum about how it makes you feel and maybe all three of you can talk. Your mum wont be with someone who didn't want you around, you will always come first to her.

Hope I've helped.

Lex x

AoifeBabess / Jan 14 2010 16.28

I have the same Problem my mum always takes His side and seems to think hes the best and i always feel like dhe hates Me and i cant get used to the fact that my mum and dad will never get back together