talkingontheradio / Oct 09 2009 20.28

Hey hun,

First off, as long as you're over sixteen then anything you say to a doctor will not be repeated to anyone else unless you give permission. This is a law, so the best thing I could recommend to you right now is going to see your GP or another doctor about what's going on.

Secondly, it's great that you're open to talking about it with friends and the like - it means that you're well on your way to getting rid of this, because usually the hardest part is opening up to others. Well done! I might just say that it's unlikely that you will be able to hide this from your parents forever, which leads to the idea that it might be best for you to tell them about it sometime soon. It sounds like the most difficult thing in the world right now, I know, but once they know they'll be able to help you with the situation, and I promise it'll be worth it to be able to let it out. Keeping something like this from your parents can really affect you emotionally, and that often creates a block in working to stop hurting yourself.

Finally, you clearly understand that self harm tends to make yourself feel worse rather than better in the long run. What you need to do now is keep on telling yourself that, and find other ways to let out your negative emotions. Sport, music and writing are all great outlets, and they're far more productive than cutting (plus you get a great sense of achievement afterwards).

Don't be afraid of telling people who are close to you about what's happening - it will make you feel far more free emotionally, which will undoubtedly help you get out of this situation.

Best of luck, and well done,

xx 

hanna / Oct 10 2009 0.03

 Thank you for making the effort to reply.

Unfortunately I'm only 15, so the doctors isnt an option really. I would love to be able to tell my parents and for them to understand, but I really couldn't bear having them knowing because I know how they would react, and it wouldn't be good. Not only would they react badly normally, but they've been really upset recently over a number of things, from the death of family members to my brother and sister moving out. It would be horrible to have to give them something else to be upset about. I just don't know what do do, I'm really confused.

Thanks for the suggestions- and the creativity helps, but it doesn't resolve it (cutting still provides more relief from stress, its like some sort of sick addiction and i don't like it)

Thank you again, and any suggestions from anyone would be greatly appreciated. x