Frankee / Nov 27 2009 11.27

I know it's hard to even imagine your parents knowing, but think about it...they made you and they'll love you no matter what. The best thing to do is to tell someone because not only do you need help, you deserve it. You can trust your parents, and your best friend really should have told someone to be honest. The bottom line is, you need to tell someone about it, because this problem will not go away

ALittleBitLost / Nov 27 2009 18.42

Hey =]

You said you don't want to be referred because you don't want your parents to know... well I just got referred and my parents have no idea. They're going to find out I'm going to the hospital, but only so they can take me seeing as I can't get there any other way, but I've told them it's to help with school stress. The doctor has told the hospital to contact me through him and he phones my mobile, instead of writing or phoning the house. So my parents will never find out if I don't want them to. So you might want to consider that?

I do advise telling someone, because eventually, it's going to ruin your life. And you'll regret the scars and the pain you caused yourself in the years to come. But your parents won't find out if you don't want them to because doctors can't tell your parents unless they think you're in danger, due to confidentiality.

Hope that helped =]

Brokenlight / Nov 28 2009 0.00

 If my best friend had told someone, she wouldnt be my best friend! She makes sure i am ok, that i dont do it too badly and that if something did go wrong she has my parents numbers. She understands as her sister went through the exact same thing before being put on anti-depressants. She doesnt want that to happen to me because she says her sister isnt the same anymore! 

 

I'm not sure whether doctors can keep things away from parents if you are under 18, does anyone happen to know? 

Jen301 / Nov 28 2009 11.27

You can trust people even if it doesnt seem that way.. I know I rthought people would hate me and stuff if they knew about my self harm but people react better than you would think so it is actually worth it even though i know how hard it is cos I have been through it all too... Its great that your best mate can help though, at least you got someone :)

About the doctors, they keep things confidential even if your under 18 UNLESS they think your in danger of seriously damaging yourself.... When i was at my doctors and he found out about the self harm he didn't tell my mum but he just tried to get me to tell her myself

Jen301 / Nov 28 2009 11.28

oh and also.... nobody can force you into seeing a professional if you dont want to but i think its worth a try. After all its not like you got anything to lose from going and if it helps then thats great yeah?

-Wings2WalkWith- / Nov 28 2009 12.15

Hi,

 

I recently told a teacher i self harm, i had been talking to this teacher for about 6 months about other things but only recently started shing and only just told them. The schooll then decided to get social services involved and by doing this they have to tell my parents about it all, i get councelling and i self harm and everything else, i didnt want my parent knowing any of that and by this time next week they will. I guess it deoends who  u tell but i personally dont no what to do anymore "/

Sorry.

Wings

Brokenlight / Nov 29 2009 20.51

 I really don't think im ready to tell anyone else yet, not a teacher or even someone i really trust! I don't know what it is that is holding me back but people judging me is not something that will help right now. As much as my best friend helps me, i know inside she is judging me and wants to ask why i do it but i dont even think i can tell her! 

Jen301 / Nov 29 2009 22.26

You know what? Its ok not to want to tell anyoneelse at the moment. It is totally up to you and you will take that step when you feel ready for it. I know its really difficult feeling like people judge you for it because i feel the same and I know people do judge me about it but what we have to remember is that they only do that because they don't understand self harm. I think you can't really blame them for not understanding because I sure as hell didn't understand before I started.. I mean, causing yourself physical harm to make you feel better? It doesn't sound logical does it? It's ok though, im not having a go at your there or anything [sorry if it sounds that way] because i self harm too and thats just how I make myself feel better. It makes me feel better when I remind myself they dont really mean to judge me its just that they dont really get it... Also, its ok not to know why you self harm; it can be difficult to find the cause of it but just try your best and that is all anyone can ask of you.

Keep safe <3
Jen