Hey guys
Exactly one week ago i gave my year teacher permission to tell my parents about my self harm. I am 15 and have self harmed for a year.
I've been looking through the message boards and thought i'd just share with you just how it happened for me because there are a lot of you out there who have not told anyone, parent or teacher and have not told a teacher because you are worried they may tell your parents.
I had been debating for a while about whether i should tell my parents about my self harm, but i always came back to the same thing. I just didn't want to upset them.
I'll be honest with you, it was the hardest decision i have ever had to make. My year teacher said that she really thought she should phone my parents because only that way could she get me extra support. I was crying so much, but in the end i thought that it was for the best because i have had to deal with self harm for long enough.
She called my dad and he came straight away. He was crying, neither of my parents had any idea, it was upsetting to see because my dad never cries. Telling my mum was also very hard, she tends to over react, but she soon calmed down. I explained to them SOME of my reasons but i'm not ready to share all of them yet.
They've now got over the shock and are talking with my teacher about next steps for me , such as CAMHS.
To all of you debating about whether to tell a teacher, i can't recomend it enough. My year teacher finding out has been the best thing for me. It helps to be able to speak to someone who understands.
My parents finding out is the next step to getting better however I completely understand people who don't want to tell their parents. This last year, for me, has just been about them not knowing. I know just as much as anyone how hard it can be.
I hope i've convinced people who havent told anyone, to do so. Its the only way to get help and start to find ways of stopping self harm coz we can't do it alone.
hope i've helped
good luck everyone xxxxxxxx
