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Bettina123 / Jan 10 2010 4.07
Hi im 12 almost 13 iv been cuting for 2 and a half weeks and the first time i ever cut was just to feel the pain and one of my friends saw my cuts and told my school councelor and she talked to me and i sayed that it was just a dare and i feel horrible for saying that but i didnt want to tell her and now im still doing. she told my mom but my mom didnt do/say anything to me. Im adopted when i was 3 months when i was adopted .my birth mom left the hospital after i was born, and they don't who my dad is.I just hate life and to top that i have a boyfriend cause i was peer preshured casuse all my friends have one and they keeps saying i should get one and so i have one but all he wants to do is make out with me.

Pleas can you help i can't talk to any one and i feel like im on my own even though i looked at the messege board and there are so many people in the same situation.

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IfOnlyTheyKnew / Jan 04 2010 20.55
loose the guy, boyfrends are ment to respect u and ur suposed to go out with sum1 coz u want to not coz evry one else is. its sad about how ur real mum left u n i see how that can b affecting u now, somtimes its better just to deal with things alone but if u think there is a real problem u need help, evenn if its just a shoulder to cry on, it was impulsive to tel ur friend nothing was wrong but mayb u shud turn to her for help, if shes a real frend shel help u and nt go telling ppl u dnt want involved

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SomethingCrazy / Jan 06 2010 17.35
Sometimes feeling alone is just isolating and terrible. But I'm glad that you have looked around the message boards and seen that there are other people in this situation, there are. Have you read the advice left on their posts? Sometimes it is helpful to apply it to yourself.

About your boyfriend. You don't have to have one. If your friends are making you feel uncomfortable, then they can't be your real friends. You could try branching out a little and hanging around with new people? Or just explain to your friends that you just don't want one. You are happy with who you are and being single. You don't know if another girl in your group only has a boyfriend for the same reason as you either. If you stand up for yourself, they might too.

Why did you 'just want to feel the pain'? There must have been something to fuel this desire. And sometimes lying is the easiest forms of defence, the amount of times I have lied about my self-harm is unbelievable... but it isn't a good thing.

It sounds like you find what happened to you when you were very young quite traumatic. Have you been able to talk to anybody about it? You could mention it to your Mum.

x

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butterfly93 / Jan 10 2010 4.07
hi i think u need to be single this guy is only wanting kisses and u got pressured into it i know how it feels to be pressured into a bf but i said no and got respected for it more and know im with a guy who treasts me how i should be treated

hope u stop selfharming it becomes a long term thing if u dont stop soon x

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