Emmelia-Jane / Jan 11 2010 1.02

hey :)

you should let her know that she is convincing people to do something that, in all honesty, could kill you. Tell her that she should stop, because its pointless and silly, also tell your other friends that if she tells them to self harm, not to, because people who self harm usually get bullied for it, and called things like 'emo' and steriotyped. Just make sure she is aware that self-harming isnt right at all, and making your friends do it is, to be quite honest, a bit sick. Tell her what you think anyway :)

I hope I helped :) emmie-jay x

 

SomethingCrazy / Jan 11 2010 20.25

I'm sorry to hear that your friend is doing this. Could you ask her why and tell her to stop? It's bad enough that she is doing this, without dragging others down with her. Maybe she doesn't want to suffer alone and regrets starting because of her boyfriend and so thinks she shouldn't be the only one who was lead into it. She does need to stop though. Self-harm, though sometimes controlled, can escalate the very dangerous levels. If she won't then, in all honesty, I would speak to a teacher.

If she won't accept your pleas, you need to just tell her that she could be ruining everything. I was caught with a penknife and stuff to that effect in school once. Although they were very nice because they realised I was using on myself, they have warned that if it happens again then I will be suspended. They should have done that last time. I was stopped going on a school trip abroad which is something that still hurts me. Could you warn her about those sorts of consequences? Sometimes people just don't think.

Look after yourself as well. I can tell that you are worried and please don't neglect your own feelings and concentrate solely on her. If you need to talk then you have those other friends you mention and we'll always be here.

Take care xx