Jenny94 / Dec 13 2009 22.07

I know!!! I hate this horrible sterotype that people have that EVERYONE WHO SELF HARMS IS AN EMO. People just don't think that its a real issue for some people. I have to think about self harm everyday, whether thats trying to restrain myself from it or trying to cover the scars up. 

I'm really small and people tease me about it all the time, but one time i was just not in the mood and i just said oh shut up in a half jokey way and they said ohh are you going to go home, cry and slit your wrists then Jenny?? Just as a passing comment. It got me sooo angry

another time i asked to go to the toilet in modern studies (my modern studies teacher is another years guidence teacher so he knows about me) and when i took a while he sent one of my friends to find me luckily i met her on the way back but she said i think he wanted me to check if you were crying and slitting your wrists...to my knowledge she has no idea.

So don't worry i know EXACTLY what you mean. Someone asked what the defination of an emo was in class and someone answered someone who slits their wrists.

I hate it too and wish more people, like us, understood what it was and how horrible it is to have to cope with!!

Sorry about the rant, hope you feel empathised with :P 

Jenny xxxx 

Ebony95 / Dec 14 2009 17.54

I hate it too...

Sometimes you think your problems are bad enough without people making stupid remarks and labelling you for your way of dealing with things.

To be honest i think a lot of people need to sit back and look how it might affect people with all the labelling and spiteful remarks. Because (A) not all emos slit their wrists and (B) not every one who selfharms is an emo.

xx

Emilyxxx / Jan 08 2010 18.26

 I feel exactly the same way, its so unfair, I wish ppl cld jst understand tht we rnt emos and they have 2 stop makin those comments cos its jst nt fair! i h8 it tht ppl say u gonna go slit ur wrists thn either in a nasty or even jokey way cos either way it hurts and tbh i jst dont need it.

han-han / Jan 09 2010 18.27

heyy

yea i empathise with you all and it is soo annoying and just makes you feel even worse about how you cope with the feelings inside of you.

another thing about emos if they are slitting there wrists they mostly do it for attention were as SH are doing it for the release of emotions and it is that personal thing for them n has nout too do with attention seeking.

i can see y ur teacher did that jenny but it was totally wrong for him to check on you all the time and then for your friend to even phrase that the way she did she could have just asked you if you were ok cos you were taking a while but maybe then it cud make you a bit paranoid i kno it would make me feel that way. im just sayin it could have been handled better

lululucie96 / Jan 09 2010 21.57

well i am not bothered about being asociated with emos as i have always been abit.......dark. but it does bother me wen people mmake jokes about slef harm.

my class isnt 2 bad tho sumtimes people make jokes about it and 1 of our teachers makes jokes about it 2!! he wasnearly fired because he saw my arm and told the whole class about it as a joke.

also i get very embaressedwen people joke about it and i feel myself going very red and uptight. its really upsetting.

stayhappy / Jan 09 2010 23.33

i cant stand it either!!  i hate all the chavs, who asume all emos cut, there like ' oh shut up you emo, go slit ur wrists!'

i had sum boys calling me and emo and i was like shut up! i was shouting at them, and i thought they stopped, as they walked away one said. 'shall we go watch finding EMO'  so i grabbed his hair and started puching him in the face.  as u can tell it reli winds me up!  and i cant help it, people like this make me wanna cut more!

 

xxx

butterfly93 / Jan 10 2010 16.58

 

its horrible when poeple do that but guys are the worst for saying why do all emos slit we dont first of all the first person to do it wasnt a goth or emo and second if uve ever hit a wall in anger ur selfharming does that mean ur a emo no so why does it mean we are for cutting it doesnt but poeple dobnt understanf i just hope one day they will but u need to get help and stop selfharming

han-han / Jan 10 2010 21.26

well i am not bothered about being asociated with emos as i have always been abit.......dark. but it does bother me wen people mmake jokes about slef harm.

my class isnt 2 bad tho sumtimes people make jokes about it and 1 of our teachers makes jokes about it 2!! he wasnearly fired because he saw my arm and told the whole class about it as a joke.

also i get very embaressedwen people joke about it and i feel myself going very red and uptight. its really upsetting.

That is so bad i reeli cnt believe it. why wasnt he fired he was totally in the wrong and it has nothin to do with him or anyone else in ur class. i feel for you babe xx

i hope everyone who has commented is doing well x

happy7494 / Jan 11 2010 17.35

When I was 12 people used to be like that with me, I just said that I stopped and evn though I am 15 and still do it no one thinks I do. If anyone did find out, its not the end of the world i promise. Just say that you don't do it anymore and if you did well thats your choice. The best thing is not to live up to what they are wanting. They want you to be upset but don't give them that. Just ignore them and even if you may be really upset inside let it out later. Come on here and do the 1-2-1 thing. And explain the situation. I hope it all gets better soon xxx

stayhappy / Jan 21 2010 22.28

i was in my art lesson ( wich is full of chav boys) (im the only girl and emo)  and they were like ooooh do u remember when we used to play nuckles. its a game were u hit ur nuckles on the edge of the table, and the person with the biggest cut/bruse wins. <<< THAT SELF HARMING.

also chicken scratch << skratch til ur skin comes of, person with the biggest scratch wins<<< THATS SELF HARMM. so why do they call us emos and take the mick when we self harm when basicaly there doing it too!!!!