Sweetychickx / Aug 06 2009 13.32

 

Hiya

I know exactly what you mean.

Cutting isn't anything to be ashamed of (although from personal experience I know that there is quite a bit of shame associated with it) its a tool which we use to maintain psychological integrity and sometimes feels the best way or the only way to be able to deal with our problems because like you said it isn't harming anyone else. 

However it is very self destructive and you may not think it's harming anyone else but those who care about you would be upset to know that you're so distressed you have to cut yourself.

I have a huge guilt issue at the minute - and I'll be honest with you 4 weeks ago I shopped my own mum to social services because she was an alcoholic and I was being emotionally, physically and sexually abused as a result. I used to self harm all the time about what was going on however since being removed from my home and knowing that my mum is being helped, although I'm feeling guilty and I have considered self harming, I haven't self harmed in 4 weeks.

Is there no one that you can talk to or is there not something you can do to help your situation? At the minute you're caught in the vicous cycle where something happens and you cut and it's not really helping anything or changing anything for the better.

I don't think anyone has a perfect life. I'm here if you want to talk =)

Sweetychick

x

 

mylies / Aug 10 2009 1.21

I agree with the above, any form of self harm weather its cutting or not can make you feel in control. But i plead with you to get help before this gets any worse, beileve me . when i first started i felt like it helped me but people told me like am telling you to get help i didn't listen to them and because of that. when I could have stopped it i think about it all the time, litrally! I should have been to A&E a number of times. And I could have scars which never leave me. Also I agree I do feel very ashamed about my cuts and scars.

Please as someone who did not take peoples advice and allowed it to get worse am worse now,Please get help before you end up like me.

Another thing, Like the above you may feel your not hurting anyone else I thought that to but we are , were hurting the people who care about us the most our families, friends and ourselves.

Please get help before this gets any worse.

Take care

Randomer / Aug 14 2009 2.02

I know what you mean there were and are several reasons to why i cut myself and one of them like your fnding was because i did it because of one thing and a person i told felt guilty and like it was their fault so that made me do it even more because i felt responsable for making them feel bad. I understnad what your going through and i myself am trying to find strength to stop, i have managed for a few months but i keep having urges and if i start again i will fall into the cycle again. I just want to say i have been am and kinda in atm what your going through so i am here to talk and help if you want xxx

jo123 / Oct 04 2009 21.38

 I totally disagree it isn't harming anyone else, everyone who cares about you is being harmed!

i urge you to stop or talk to someone you trust, please !

at least if you talk to them they feel they are doing something to help you, my brother is self harming and i feel so helpless and alone, exactly how he is feeling, but i also feel responsible and i would never be able to forgive myself if i thought i could have helped and i didnt. 

Please, please think of your family and friends and how much they care about you and find the strength to open up, all they want to do is help you feel happier.

I wish you all the best.

LostKitten / Oct 10 2009 4.54

I need some advice, im waiting on a counsellor already..

hello1491 / Oct 11 2009 18.37

i selfharm because it makes everything easier to cope with. But im so confused about why i get so down my friends are great and my parents dont harm me in ANY way or each other although they argue sometimes (but so do everyones parents) but sometimes i feel so down and then doing it makes everything seem better

sniperz / Oct 13 2009 13.31

i no wot u mean i do it but it just takes away my pain and from when i was a kid

jessbob / Oct 23 2009 16.32

i am all confused about my family situation  and like nothing feels safe i am really worried about my mum because she is all stressed and i hate evrything i do not no what to do i am all confused and feel like cutting andd i will not be a part of it all plz plz pl z can u guys out there give me some advice to make me a litlle advice so i am not confused my friends laugh at me

Cryingmyselftosleep / Nov 01 2009 17.50

I know exactly how you feel and have been cutting myself for 3 weeks now cos I was mean to someone by accident and now quite rightly she hates me for it. I said she had big ears compared to mine cos mine are tiny and she took it the wrong way. I stopped eating cos of that and that made the fighting between my parents is worse and now my little bros are ill cos my mum isn't paying them enough attention. But when i cut my school life fell apart and then my family fell apart so please stop cos it always has consequences!

nicky15 / Nov 03 2009 23.49

i started self harming 3 years ago now, and 3 weeks ago my mum and dad had a fight, About me being sexually abused, that night i tried to end it, but my mum caught me, she is insistent on me getting help even though i havent self harmed since, i know i need help but i have spoken to her about my problems and she has arranged a meeting with my year head at school, but she is one of the reasons i self harm! how can i persuade my mum not to go to that meeting?!