SomethingCrazy / Jan 19 2010 14.29

What you have to remember about rumours is that they aren't true. As long as you know that then what other people think shouldn't matter- but I know that it does.

A few years ago, I went on holiday and whilst I was away I had rumours spread about me. That upset me quite a bit and I struggled to find the courage to return to the youth club, especially as the person spreading them was supposed to be my friend. I think that finding the strength to step back into that hall makes you a respected person, respect can help people not to believe it is true and like you.

I don't think confrontation is necessarily the key here. Maybe have a more quiet word, just explaining that you are upset and hurt and asking why these rumours were spread in the first place. You may get an answer that helps to stop them.

Another thing I do is put on a brave face covering everything up- rightly or wrongly. Pretend nothing is wrong and people won't judge you as much for it. Just keep fighting it, by next week people will have moved onto something else. You can work through it, just don't let it get you down.

Take care xx

azka / Jan 19 2010 19.14

thnks you so much for the advise