unhappy1993 / Aug 07 2009 11.15

Hey i'm not in the same postion as you but if your not ready to have sex you dont have to its best to wait to till your fully ready.

As for trying to get back at your mum i dont think it would be a good idea because it would make things worse for you and your mum what ever has gone on between your mum and you have you tryed talking to her about it ?

As for your boyfreind you should talk to him whats best for you because if you dont want to have sex then he needs to understand this and also if he leaves you he cant be a good boyfreind im sure he will understand.

Take care

sorry if this didnt help

xxx

Floo / Oct 01 2009 13.33

If your boyfriend doesnt understand your feelings and is not in the same position as you, he's not good enough for you....

My friend has a different opinion saying that you should break up with him and all. My friend isn't very smart though....

Talk to him though

xx

xloveyoubabbyx / Oct 03 2009 20.58

heya sorry if this dosent help but i was in care and my boyfriend said he wanted me to have sex so i did and now i am 8 months pregnant. the only reason i did this was to hurt my carers but at the end of the day my whole life has changed so all i cansay is think and do what you finks right and it will be oki ........x

ashflo / Oct 08 2009 12.21

the best thing to do is go with your heart if your not ready 4 sex dont do it and it wont get back at your mum ! if your boyfriend will leave you cause your not ready to have sex with him then it shows that he dosent love you that much but just talk to your boyfriend and see how you feel and try to sort things out wiith your mum good luck much love ashflo xxx

heretohelp / Oct 15 2009 16.57

Heyy,

If you feel your not ready or like your too young then DONT DO IT! If he really truly loves you he will understand. I know its hard because you might be really into him, but you have to do what makes YOU feel good. One of my friends is way too young and has had sex 3 times. She definatly wasnt ready. You might be but it is not a good way at getting back at your mum. You might be angry but it doesnt make things right. Just please if you do decide to do it consider the consequences.

I hope I helped

Nikki xxxxxx

Lolly0093 / Nov 15 2009 14.54

I felt like I was ready and i thought it wasn't that important becaause everyone talks about it as not a big deal, and I thought i trusted him enough as my long term boyfriend, but less then a month after he ended things and all his friends find it funny, and i'm really upset about it all, i really thought it was nothing but its made me much more attatched :/ hope this helps x

Beckylaaa / Nov 19 2009 16.42

Seriouslyy speakin from experiencee you'll prpbably regrett it afterr. Andd if hes gonna finsh you just because you dont want to have sex with him is he really a good boyfriend ? :) 

ITbuddies / Dec 02 2009 17.48

dont have sex until you at 100% ready, its not worth wasting your virginity just because your boyfriend wants to have sex, do it because you want to. trust me, i had sex just because the boy who i fancied wanted to and he just messed me around and left me a few weeks later. not saying that your boyfriend will but dont do it for him.

if he leaves you just because your not ready then you know he wasnt worth it, not matter how much you like him. you will find someone who will accept you for who you are.

sorry for the late message just thought it was a good one to reply too as i have been there :(!

confidential / Dec 10 2009 13.26

so whart if they boy leaves you
do you prefer that then your muim lersaving youy on the street when she fgionds our uyour pregnant

dont dso that back to your mum

what is wrong with you. your mum carried you for nine months

and now you wanna do something so illegal just to get back at her. 

you'll regret it 

trust me x 

stacex / Dec 14 2009 14.48

He should know when ure ready, ull do it,

if he is willing to leave you because u wont have sex then hes not worth it especially if its ure first time. :)

In my Opinion i think u should tell him tht ure not ready if ure too scared.

Fear is normal

and so is revengeful ideas, u may be mad at ure mum.

But it dosent mean that shes stop caring. i think tht you should sit down and have a chat wid ure mum :D x

LoveStaciex