Kimii / Nov 24 2009 9.25
Hi
your in luck. i was in the same pattern as this. I'm 16 now, but was 10 when i spoke up to my STEPMUM, i now live with my grandparents. I lived with my dad when i was 8 because my mum + little brother died on holiday when i was 8. It was pretty rough as you can imagine, and my dad wanted to be there for me but my stepmum constantly pushed him outta the way and told me to stop crying because it was causing more stress for my dad. She used to bully me, threaten to ground me and then laugh in my face when i cried. She told my family that she didn't want a 'brat' living with her. She used to push me into walls and say get out of my way. My dad was there watching this happen and didn't say anything!
She degrading him, making him feel little. So when i was 10 i had enough and just picture a little girl who cried herself to sleep everynight approaching this woman who didn't give love or anything. I sat down with her and my dad and said 'i want to live with my grandma + grandad' (who lived a 100 miles away), she hit the roof, threw me and my dad out, he took me to his mums, and then went back.
6 years on, he's left her, and now lives with his mum, and is such a better dad!.
If i was you hun, sit your mum down while he is not there, and tell her how you feel, it does take a lot of guts. She will probably deny anythings wrong, but if she's a good mum she will stand up for you. Don't run away, even though it seems the best way to do it, don't you have any uncle's? aunties? friends? to stop with for a few days, if u do just tell your mum your going away for a while and say you'll come back when your stepdads changed. This might scare your mum into leaving him. Keep in touch and let me know how it's going xxx
