EscapeToMusic1 / Jan 09 2010 18.48

hi

im sorry to hearyour going through this too =[

i totally get all you said. ive attempted suicide 6 times, and everyday i fake a smile, pretend im okay, because its easier than looking like an attention seeker.

i tried asking my mum for help, and she was the same as your mentor. Ive tried asking friends, but after the initial 'awh we'll help' they act like im invisible.

My advice, is dont give up on yourself. When you feel totally down, express it in a poem, or song. Play any instruments ? Write a full on song with lyrics, chords, notes and everything.

Any chance you get to go 'numb' like when you dont register anything and feel almost seperate from the world, take it.I dont know if thats good for you, but thats what i do and its stops things happening that shouldnt.

In school, dont think about the other people. Think as if your in your own bubble, and people cant bother you, then its easier to go on as normal.

hope i helped. stay strong x

han-han / Jan 10 2010 21.21

thanx y0o have helped. I hate it when people act like you are invisible and then say we will help and never do.

i might see if writing a song will help x

thanx again xxxx

bunnyhop / Jan 11 2010 15.08

I would love to give you a hug right now. I can't, will a virtual one do? *hugs* Hug yourself. It's from me

I think you'll find on this website, we will be your friends. Please don't hurt yourself, because although we don't know each other very well I don't like to see people suffer.

I am sorry to hear about the row with your best mate. Are you sure you can't make it up with her? It may be her fault, too, but if any of it was yours, you can maybe apologise what you have done. Then she might follow.

A letter maybe? A bit like this- and you could buy chocolates too =)

Dear ______

I am really sorry. I know you might not answer me, but I didn't mean what I said. I'm sorry for _______. You were a nice friend to me, and you're ___________.* I'm not saying I'm sorry for everything but I would really like to make up with you because you are my best friend and I really miss you. I am really upset to lose you, please accept my apology.

_____

 

*In this blank you put things you like about her

 

Okay so- your mentor wasn't very comforting. Is there anyone else you can talk to, other than her? Someone in your family? If not, don't worry - that's what childline and we are here for

:D

So talk to us about it, we'll listen

=)

 

PS: YOU ARE NOT WORTHLESS. Honestly. You're worth soooooooooooooooooooo much more than you realise. Now if you reply I would like you to say three things you like about yourself =)

han-han / Jan 11 2010 15.58

oh god 3 things reeli ?? eerm im a good listener oh i dunno :(.

things keep getting worse n i have tried before to tell her we should sort this out but she didnt want to so its her choice i dont reeli want to be her friend no more. today she went to ma mentor and i got in trouble for everything and i dont see why cos she didnt get told she had done summat wrong and i was shouted at it is so annoyin i swear i dont see why im gettin all the blame and accusations. i know i did wrong but she did just as much.

*HUGS* for you 2 xxxx

bunnyhop / Jan 12 2010 17.24

SEE

=D

I really like people who can listen well - they make nice friends. ^-^ I mean, if the person doesn't listen, they won't be able to understand. People who can listen well are usually excellent at giving advice too :D So there's another one. And even if you're not - if you're taking your time to listen to someone you're being kind :D So there we are - three

=)

I know it must be difficult when your friend is acting this way, but I suggest you still send the letter. To her face, she feels she has to make a decision straight away. If you give her a letter, she has time to think about it. And when she reads it, she'll think, she cares for me. She's written me a letter because she wants to keep our friendship. She's sorry, and she wants to be my friend. Even if she ignores it, you can say, she's tried. You don't have to but if you want to it might work - come on, she may be acting a bit annoying, but think about all the time she's been nice, why you called her your friend

=)

Have you told your parents, can you? If you can and can explain your side of the story your mentor should be able to see it wasn't just you.

I'm really sorry you have no-one to talk to, is there anyone else you can talk to? You said people were asking how your Christmas was, how about befriending them?

=)

Let us know how it goes

han-han / Jan 16 2010 20.49

heyy,,,

im still gettin hasle for this i have just left my ex best friend be but im still gettin trouble she is still sayin stuff and i dont know wot to do or how much to take. Still the teachers n this girl even people i dont know are gettin involved and sayin im bullyin n threatenin her and much more when i aint done that.

=(

bunnyhop / Jan 21 2010 18.22

I think that people should listen to you about what happened; it sounds like you're not being given much of a chance

Why don't you talk to your friend in private? Ask her why she's doing this and to be mature about it - tell her, yes, you messed up, and you're sorry, and you miss being friends, but she messed up too and she should accept that, and exaggerating things doesn't show maturity

Are there any teachers who aren't involved that you could explain things to?

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han-han / Jan 21 2010 19.04

to be fair no one listens about it I really miss our friendship and it hurts that she has gone.

Me and her are never gonna be the way we were and i dont think i could pluck up the courage to talk to her

bunnyhop / Jan 22 2010 18.27

Ok, it is difficult to talk to her - it doesn't mean you won't have the friendship back though, people do make up and come on you were friends for a reason

You could ask childline to ring your school and they can explain what happened - make sure you are honest about what happened =) It might show things in a different way, and if you do the letter like I suggested, you could also ask her over to your house to talk about it

 

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