bells / Oct 07 2009 17.28

HI,

Do not let this boy carry on doing something that you are not happy with.  I would go and see your teacher immediately.  Everything you say should be confidential and talking to someone will help. or you could try asking him to stop, just explain that you are not happy with what he is doing and see if he takes the hint!

hope this helps x

 

talkingontheradio / Oct 09 2009 20.36

Hey,

There's not really a specific formula for bullying - if someone is doing something that makes you upset or uncomfortable then it needs to be stopped. Period.

I know it's an age-old concept, but if people are really you're friends then they'll back you up as soon as you tell them what's going on. You shouldn't have to be worrying about their approval of your actions right now.

Some people will side with this guy. There's no escaping that, because in this sort of case there will always be a divide, particularly if what you say is true about him being popular. However, you aren't doing anything wrong by telling a teacher or parent about what he's doing, and whilst some people may not recognise that, others will respect you for speaking up, and these are the ones who will recognise that he's the one in the wrong.

Another point to think about is that if he's doing this to you then it could mean that he's doing it to other girls in your year who are also worried about what might happen if they speak up. If you do something about it then you could be helping other people as well as yourself.

Again, don't worry about whether or not a teacher would class this as bullying. It's something that is making you uncomfortable and that should be enough for something to be done about it.

Good luck,

xx

IfOnlyTheyKnew / Oct 10 2009 19.38

i understand what both of u r saying to me but im afraid to, all his friends are 5ft6+ and very strong and im 4ft11 (short 4 a 14yr old)  and i wdnt say i was strong enuth 2 defend myself if  fings were to get outa control. my boyfriend keeps him away from me at lunch and break, but he stil touchess me in maths, iv asked my teacher if i can move but did not explain y..she is trying to re-arange the seating plan 4 me but i dnt no how long it will take ...

thnk u 4 ur support x

orinarygirl / Oct 17 2009 21.19

Hi Fedupwithtears,

If this boy is feeling you up under the table, do you know what I would do? Get up, go to the teacher and ask to go and speak to head of year immediatly and tell the head of year that you are being SEXUALLY

Parada17 / Oct 22 2009 17.37

Yh i no if u go to the head of the yr it may get worse if you sit even one row back from the front say u cnt see the board properly please can you move ! if the teacher says no explain after if they don `t lisen tell the head hope i helped

fannat / Nov 07 2009 10.13

I got an idea. Send an e-mail to someone u know

rr8r / Nov 13 2009 12.25

It is good to talk to someone and what is happening to you is bullying.

No one has the right to touch you without your permission.

Hope things improve for you

xx

Here2Help / Nov 20 2009 17.56

Hiyaa ;]

Maybe.. possibly... he could have a crush on YOU !
If hes physically hurting you then that IS bullying.
If those 'friends' were true friends then they wouldn't get angry at you.

Hopee I Helped
Eimear
x

TearsOfHope / Nov 22 2009 16.13

It may be nerve wracking, but you need to go to see a teacher about it straight away. It happened  to a girl in my year before, where a lad kept trying to do things to her in lessons and al breaktimes/lunchtimes, and when she told the teachers, he was suspended for at least a week, because of the amount of times it had been reported. Good luck (Y)