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    orangecream / Nov 28 2009 20.53

    Hi

    So when I was dating my boyfriend, he thought we were ready for sex but I didn't think so, then he got mad and raped me and beat me up and said some awful things about me and my family.

    A week later I relised I was pregnant out of decency I told him and he laughed and said it was my fault I didn't realy care though because I didn't want him in our lives.

    So now I've had my children (It was twins two little girls called Mariah & Ciara) but I'm starting to feel really depressed and having flashbacks and beating myself down, I've tried to cut myself but my best friend has stopped me several times saying I need to think of my daughters and I break down crying.

    It wasn't my fault it happened but I can't help but feel this way.

    Any advice pls?

    thanx for reading such a long message

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    lally / Nov 24 2009 18.33

    heyy x so what ur boyfriend did was totally wrong and sick but look on the bright side u have to beautiful girls and u need to hold up for them. When you feel a flashback commin gett in a bath, do summin with your kids to get your mind off of it x

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    confused2996 / Nov 24 2009 19.12

    Hello x
    Congratulations on the kids :)

    Dont beat yourself about it, the guy you were with must of hurt you alot for you to do that, but maybe you could think of it differently!

    Think about how your so lucky to have your two children, think about how much your ex is losing out on.

    I cant think of much else, as its never happened to me. x well it has but luckily i didnt get pregnant. ouch.

    Good on you for keeping alive though! i wouldnt have been able too xx

     

    Hope i helped x

     

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    neve / Nov 26 2009 0.52

    well first of all thankyou for not aborting your children, it wasnt you fault at all. you have to try and be strong for them make sure they get enough love. when thinking of cutting one thing to do i think will work for you is to write your girls name on you arm with a pen on the area you feel like harming by doing this you are constanly reminded that you must be strong for them. flash backs are diffficult to block just sycastically say to yourself when you have one oh great another flash back treat it like someone trying to make you sad but you are being strong . they come and go away hope ive helped some of these wrk 4 me i hope they wrk for you.

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    crazyx / Nov 28 2009 10.08

    Hello,

    My names Ciara! the way its spelt is irish! what that boy did to you is wrong and bad. my dad left me and my mum when he found out my mum was pregnant. but we made it through! you don't need him just forget him and have a happy life with ciara and mariah!

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    mintchan / Nov 28 2009 20.53

    Hi!

    I'm realy sorry for what happened to you it was wrong

    You should tell a counsellor sometimes telling someone can get your mind off the flashbacks get it off your chest.

    Don't harm yourself keep yourself busy so you don't think about it.

    Have a nice life with your kids!!!

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