unhappy1993 / Aug 18 2009 16.48

Heyy I must say well done for commeting on the message board that was very brave of you .

You say you get flash backs and night mares about the abuse if you cant talk about it to some maybe wright it down for your mum or dad , or a freinds mum , or grand parents , teacher because im sure all thease people would want to help and support you through this also to now how your feeling :) .

Another option will be try and talk to your gp or write down for him or her  to read then he or she will give you some help such as coucelling which will help with the flashbacks and night mares etc , also she or he may provide support groups you could go to with people in the same situation as you.

Im sure people would want to help you and know how your feeling inside.

Please try and talk to some one :) 

Remmmber youre not alone !!!!

I hope this helps

Good Luck

Take care

xxx

Jen301 / Aug 28 2009 21.50

Hey

Well i have never had nightmares before but I have had flashbacks of things and I think what i find helps is doing something calming for me? so for example have a relaxing bath every day and listening to some nice music will make you feel calmer and so you are less likely to worry about things and have flashbacks? So if you think of something you like to do/listen to/eat etc then do something nice every day then you will feel better and less worried and I think if you do something like that before bed you are less likely to have nightmares? Somebody told me once that they have a drink of hot chocolate before bed, then listen to their fave song and then take a nice cuddly toy to bed and it helps so maybe you could try that :)

Hope this helps a bit xxxx

Jen301 / Aug 28 2009 21.52

Hey sorry I forgot to mention in my last message that you might want to try writing down all your thoughts and feelings before you do your comforting things because then all the feelings are "out" sort of and makes you less likely to think of it xxx

Teen / Nov 22 2009 21.01

 I know exactlly how you feel i was attacked and ever since i have had flashbakcs and some night mares about this so i spoke to someone from collge and they have said there are people that ur gp or someone from this side at school or college can put you through to

dreamgirl123 / Dec 13 2009 18.37

hey,

i understand exactly how you feel. i was sexually abused when i was a kid and i have nightmares and flashbacks about it very often. it really gets to you sometimes doesn't it?

what ive found helps with flashbacks is remembering that they are from the past. when i go into a flashback i find it helpful to have a friend that knows the signs, so spacing out or not listening to what people say, going quiet. when i do that my friend starts talking to me or pokes me or something to remind me where i am. then i think about what's different in my surroundings from then, for example, a green carpet not a yellow one or something like that, and remind myself that the person or people who hurt me aren't here now, and that im a different age, im wearing different clothes and all that stuff. that helps me to come out of it.

for nightmares i find that writing down all my thoughts before i go to bed helps a lot. it clears my mind, so im not thinking about the abuse. when i wake up from a nightmare i remind myself where i am, get up, put the light on, give a teddy or cushion a hug and get myself a cup of tea or something, and then i go back to bed having calmed myself down. as you go on, and you get into the habit of talking about things with people and writing things down, the nightmares start to leave you alone because you know that you're dealing with the stuff on your mind.

i hope this helps you. i really feel for you i know what you're going through.

 

Heretohelp22 / Dec 31 2009 3.26

hellooo there :)

im always getting flash backs and horrible memories thrown back at me.. its not nice and im sorry to hear your going through this. i have just skim readed what other people have said.. and i agree in that you should talk about this to someone. it does work.. u may seem like your dwelling on the past, but your not! try to a trusting friend every - so - often about things and whats on your mind - it really does work. or try writing ideas down.

do u have a special object or a guardian angel? something small prehaps so you can carry it everywhere you go, and when you having a flashback, you can look and hold your special item.. and think of good things.. and think to your self that you are worthy etc

i hopw it doesnt get you down too much... if it really does.. please talk to someone.. anyone (u can trust)

take care hun xxx

luvleylully / Jan 01 2010 22.31

i have flashbacks every nite so wat do we do x