MusicSavesLives / Jan 01 2010 17.17

Hey.

For starters - nothing here is your fault whatsoever. It was a joke, it wasn't like a horrible, nasty joke, it was just a joke. Whatever happend to you wasn't your fault.

I think that you really need to tell a trusted adult who isn't one of your family (trusted teacher, maybe?). I hate to think that you are living with someone who hurts you like that (I know I don't know you but I still hate the thought of it happening to anyone). It's not fair that you should have to go through that.

You shouldn't ever have to see your Dad again if you don't want to. It is your decision. Like it says somewhere on this website, the Police and Social Services are there to protect you.

I know it must be awful that your brother is also abusive towards you. It's not fair and I think you really need to do something because there are people who can help you.

You can talk to me anytime you want. x

Beth94 / Jan 03 2010 0.56

hi, thanks for replying and the support (:

After my dad came back to our house and we got in a big fight and i moved in with my mate i talked to a teacher at school about it but he had to tell the other teachers so i had to talk to the head of year and that and they called my mum and tried to get the social involved.

But when they spoke to Mum she said no one got hurt and it was fine and everything is okay at home now. and said my dad had never done it before. So they couldnt do anything apart from keep an eye on me. :(

(i think she said it because she wants us to be normal and she doesnt want people thinking shes a bad mum)

And now theyve said because the teacher i spoke to is a male and im a girl im  not allowed to speak to him on my own  and someone else has to be there, which i really couldnt stand having loads of people there who i dont trust when i need to talk :(

So im really stuck with telling the skl anything :( and i dont want to upset mum or get anyone in trouble. What would you do?

Thanks for helping its great to have someone else to talk to :)

xx

 

MusicSavesLives / Jan 03 2010 14.15

Hey (:

I know it's stating the obvs., but you could always ring childline/talk to the councellors online and see what they think. They know more about what to do than me, and they might be able to tell you what would happen if you told someone. I'm pretty sure the social can stop you having to see your dad if you want them to, and maybe do something about your brother if he's over 18.

You know the mate you moved in with for a bit? Maybe you could ask her to be there if you want to tell that teacher again if she knows what's going on. If you're mum told the school that everything is fine and it's not, then the school will probably just leave it.

I don't know what I'd do to be perfectly honest, because I know what you mean, about not getting anyone in to trouble or upsetting your mum, but I really don't think it's okay that you have to live with/see people who can fly into rages like that, and the fact that it scares you to be in the same room as them is not fair either, 'cause you should be able to feel safe at home. 

I think that I'd probably talk to the councellers.

xx

lallyxxx / Jan 21 2010 17.23

heyy x

this is blackmail and you shouldnt have to put up with it at all ! your dad is sick because he wants to make you uncomertable because you obvously dont want to see him ! you should tell someone you trust maybe a teacher a friend or a friends mum because it will only get worse if you dont :( and no one wants that x remember this is anonamous so im always here if you need to talk xxxxxx

lallyx