yahar / Jun 12 2009 10.48

hi blue hats. I'm so glad to hear that you've spoken to your mum about what happened. I know what it feels like to keep quiet and its so hard, sounds like you've been really brave. Just because your told doesnt mean that you will be fine. Telling is only the very first step of getting better, could you tell your mum how you feel? I think it would really help if you could. Its really not your fault, not not not your fault in anyway. You have done nothing wrong. Have you got a councellor? If you can't talk to your mum how about call childline or go on 121, I think a problem shared is a problem halved. Really hope you feel better soon.best wishes. Xxx

dysfunctionalabc123x / Jun 12 2009 18.33

I've been physicaly and emotionaly abused by my parents since i was about three,this has effected me in a big way, recently it's stopped but i've got so many bad  memories. Is it my fault?

maya / Jul 04 2009 21.34

heyy well i was sexually abused for 2 years and then nearly raped one night he was a person from the family which made things a lot worse. i told my parents after that night two months later we didnt go to the police but they did severly beat him up twice! i still cnt stop thinking about it even after a year or so but eventually in time i think you will get over it just try to move on with life and always be proud of yourself for confronting this issue with your mum.

take care hun xxx

XrugbygurlX / Aug 10 2009 21.27

Hiya,

I was sexually assaulted and nearly raped by a guy i didnt know when i was on holiday.. i know where you're coming from with the memories, and blame and not being able to 'get over it' as such..

Something that's helped me is a good mate of mine (who is the only person ive told) said to me; The more you torture yourself by thinking about it and blaming yourself, the more of a hold you are letting him have over you. When he did it he was controlling you, taking away your choices, and if you carry on letting it affect you like this then he's still controlling you. But if you face it, accept wasnt your fault and deal with the emotions it brings, you can stop being his victim and become a survivor.

Remember to give yourself time to heal, but try not to let it destroy your life. Someone did something bad to you, it wasnt your fault, but you're strong enough to overcome it and still enjoy your life.

Hope this helps,

Demontackle xx

XrugbygurlX / Aug 11 2009 20.43

Apologies for using the wrong name there..

 

:)

Tellie / Oct 06 2009 19.21

I think u should talk to your mum again it might help (: cause she knows what has happened and will know how you are feeling if you keep it tucked up inside you. It will happen even more (:

Hope it works out for you

Chantelx

rob4 / Oct 08 2009 22.58

hello my friend i read what you wrote i know how you feeland i hopethe bad memories go away but you must never blame yourself

love1 / Dec 27 2009 15.13

Hiya,

its great that u told ur mum, if it happens again, tell him to GO AWAY coz its up to u wat u do, wether u get raped or not, u should be able to choose, im ONLY 10 and do NOT KNOW WHETHER IM GIVING U THE RIGHT ADVISE BUT.... MY COUSIAN GOT RAPED

 

LOVE

love1

confuzzled59 / Dec 27 2009 17.32

hey ummm just one thing you got wrong there. you generally don't get to choose if sumone is gonna rape you or not. rape is forced sex so it wouldn't be your choice. anyway...

blue-hats-rule:

i'm sorry this happened to you. don't beat yourself up about it because the more you let it affect you, the more he is winning over you. try and move on. maybe talking to a counsillor or talking to your mum again and explaining that you still have the bad memories. you could talk it through with her and that might help a bit.

hope you manage to be strong and brave and move on. that way its you winning not him.

lots of love

emz xxxx

Drop_Beats_Not_Bombs / Jan 24 2010 5.27

YAY go rugby

I  rugby xxx

sorry this has nothing to do with this thing but i saw rugby and well, yayayyy xxx lol