lally / Nov 24 2009 16.50

Honey

it doesnt matter about ur dads buissness u need to talk to someone. I know you love ur dad most people in your situation do, but you need to respect yourself and ur family enough to get this sorted. I am 13 how old are you? i am here to talk if ever you need it and remember this is anonamous so u can tell me anything you want x please take my advise or at least think about itx get back to me xxxx

JasonH / Nov 24 2009 18.13

Hey I know how u feel i'm 12 and because of me my dad tried to kill homself. Now I live with him again and he beats me strangles me and the only reason I haven't reported him is because I love him. Tell a freind if you can like I did it won't resolve it but you'll feel like you got someone to talk to. I will report my dad now because he said to me he would actually kill me if I said a word about anything he's ever done. Don't blame yourself though you've done nothing wrong.

viva / Nov 24 2009 18.43

my dad has hit me and i havent told anyone bout it, bad idea. if i were you i would at least tell your mum or a member of your family before he does something even worse than he has done already. honest it will help xxx

Posex / Nov 24 2009 22.13

I'd advice you to tell your dad, if you can, how you feel. Maybe even ask him why he does it?

I urge you: tell someone!  If you're too afraid to tell anyone then try and find out why he does it. I've read alot of books on child abuse and only when the child grows up do they begin to regret they never took action. You may love your dad but the way he expresses his love is wrongly expressed.

Please take action quickly before something bad really happens.

JasonH / Nov 25 2009 6.51

Yeah I told my grandparents but they live in Spain so I'm stuck :-(

helloppl / Nov 25 2009 19.20

Try to talk o him about how you feel and how much he hurts you.

AmberP / Nov 26 2009 10.30

Sweetie, You really do need to tell someone about what is happening at home!

What your dad is doing is completely wrong, however much you love him you need to tell someone, tell a friend a trusted adult and i advise you tell ChildLine, you are not alone, Childline will know what to do to help you and they will always be willing to listen.

I am also here to listen if you like. I am 17 year old girl.

You need to not worry about your dads business, if you are at danger chances are other people will be too! If you cant do this for yourself do it for your family and friends who care about you and for those other people that might be in danger.

You say your dad is a doctor, his job is supposed to help people, he is supposed to care and look after people, not abuse them! His patients may be in risk of danger, and some people rely on their doctors for support when there is no one else to turn to, imagine if then that one person they trusted abused them, they would feel so alone, you need to save yourself babe, you can not and should not live in fear, especially in your own home! Your dad should not be allowed to be a doctor if his services are unreliable, sweetie please please tell someone, save yourself from this.

Always remember that this is not your fault and you have done nothing wrong!

I wish you all the best and try to be strong, you are so brave for posting this message, and you are an inspiration to those others that have been abused!

Stay strong , stay happy and talk to childline !

Good Luck

xxxxx

lil5544 / Nov 28 2009 16.50

thankyou everyone for your comments. i think you are maybe right that i need to talk to people about it or even get out of the house. i see many friends but i push people away without really wanting to but i dont know how to deal with friendships and people get bored of me when they find out how closed i am. i am 2 dimensional to everyone. i get very lonely and yet i have becomeso used to such minimal social activity that i am so comfortable with it. as you asked, i am 16; turning 17. no matter what age you are though i appreciate your advice deeply. there are things I know well about and yet when it comes to my own feelngs and how I am treated I know nothing of how it should or might be. I know only what I have experienced. Which is mental and physical torcher. I am competely naive to what apparently.. is normal. do you guys think loving familys are normal? they seem really weird to me.
honestly when i am around a friend who even speaks to her father without having being spoken to i cringe. its so unusual.. is it really normal or is it strange. i like to think its completely rare, parents dont talk to their children unless they have to right? 

lil5544 / Nov 28 2009 16.59

hmm. i am really sorry, i have been trying to reply but it keeps saying it is an error. i wrote a very big reply to everything everyone said and then some but it is gone now. thankyou to everyone for your advice i have really thought about it all.

i just have one question to ask. if anyone minds to answer. do you think happy familys are unusual. by happy familys i mean that they can all talk and are safe. I don't mean perfect or lovely. Don't you thnk they are unusal and rare, because I do, but I only know what I have learnt and I have started to think there are more OK familys than i thought. Many people i know havnt been abused by their parents. It seems so odd and yet i couldnt see myself ever hurting a child like that. hmmm i think my mind is so contradictory and messed up and yet i cant help the way i have been trained to think. please. honestly. is it normal? ( and i dont mean right) but normal that parents hurt and abuse their children. i mean they get angry like all other people right?

confuzzled59 / Nov 29 2009 20.38

hey hun

i have never been abused by any of my family. of course we hav arguements and get angry evry now and again. i'm a classic teen and so r my bro and sis and my granny is a bit crazy coz she has dementia so we're not all perfect and happy all the time but i guess we must be a 'happy family'.

As you say, I could NEVER EVER thinking of harming my future kids, i'd just want whats best for them. I'm sorry you have to grow up like this. u don't deserve it. no one does. but as far as i know, my friends hav 'happy families'. Obviously no one is perfect and has the perfect life. I have issues and so do most people but as far as I know having abusive families is not the norm. I'm sorry thats the impression u hav but honestly i think u r just unlucky in that sense because most people i know r fine.

sorry that you have to suffer, the best i can say is just try and talk to sumone and get away or get help to deal with ur dad. look after yourself. thats always the most important thing.

take care, hope i helped!

lots of love emz xx