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To Sam
What exactly is inappropriate touching?
I'm sorry, I didn't know what topic to put this letter in, and I think 'age difference' kind of covers a fraction of what my letter is about.
Basically I'm a 15 year old girl and went on work experience at some offices a few weeks ago. This man of about 30 was very friendly to me, not flirty or anything, we were just talking about football and stuff like that. He was stood quite close to me when he was talking to me.
I sort of embarrassed myself I can't remember what about, and he laughed at me and put his hand on my shoulder/back for about 2-3 seconds. He didn't do anything else, just kept it still for no more than that time. Anyway, he sort of lightly touched me on the shoulder and patted me on the back a couple more times later on. And when my week's placement was over and I said bye to him he said "nice to meet you" and put his hands on both my shoulders, again he didn't squeeze or do anything else. He did it to his other colleagues too, and another girl my age who he'd seen more of, he hugged her goodbye. I don't know, I know none of it's sexual and he only touched me on my back and shoudlers, but I still felt a bit uncomfortable. Men/boys have touched me whilst talking lightly before, but I've never felt that way before. i don't know whether it's because he was kind of good looking and I felt a bit nervous in that way, or it was because I actually felt it was a bit wrong.
Whatever, does that sort of touching seem inappropriate??
Basically I'm a 15 year old girl and went on work experience at some offices a few weeks ago. This man of about 30 was very friendly to me, not flirty or anything, we were just talking about football and stuff like that. He was stood quite close to me when he was talking to me.
I sort of embarrassed myself I can't remember what about, and he laughed at me and put his hand on my shoulder/back for about 2-3 seconds. He didn't do anything else, just kept it still for no more than that time. Anyway, he sort of lightly touched me on the shoulder and patted me on the back a couple more times later on. And when my week's placement was over and I said bye to him he said "nice to meet you" and put his hands on both my shoulders, again he didn't squeeze or do anything else. He did it to his other colleagues too, and another girl my age who he'd seen more of, he hugged her goodbye. I don't know, I know none of it's sexual and he only touched me on my back and shoudlers, but I still felt a bit uncomfortable. Men/boys have touched me whilst talking lightly before, but I've never felt that way before. i don't know whether it's because he was kind of good looking and I felt a bit nervous in that way, or it was because I actually felt it was a bit wrong.
Whatever, does that sort of touching seem inappropriate??
